Do you have a tween daughter preparing for their first day of middle school? Have you noticed her sudden interest in the make-up aisle at your local drugstore? It might just be that time then to start considering how you want to handle the issue of make-up for your preteen. Many parents do not want their tween wearing make-up; no "ifs, ands or buts" about it. We're afraid our daughters will look older than their age or attract attention they're not quite ready to handle. Not to mention their inability to properly apply the stuff while taking care of their skin. Don't worry, we're here to help.
It is important to realize that for girls, it's almost a coming of age milestone to wear makeup. Automatically dismissing the idea of makeup might backfire on you. So many girls arrive at middle school in the morning and immediately rush to the bathroom and whip out mascara, eyeshadow, eyeliner and other products they more than likely took from your vanity without you even noticing. Just like clothes, our tweens are easily influenced and insecure. So, having a talk with them and teaching them about makeup is the first step in building their confidence and easing your concerns. Knowing the reason for their need to suddenly start wearing makeup is very important. Maybe they're embarrassed by their complexion or they're feeling pressured/bullied by their peers. Once the reason is established, the transition will be easier for both of you.
TIP: A gift certificate to their favorite cosmetic store makes a great gift for a young girl entering her tween years. Learning to apply makeup for the first time, she may benefit from a trip to the department store cosmetic counter, where a sales associate will help instruct them how to apply cosmetics
Now, let's get down to the age-appropriate makeup business! Make sure she understands that makeup should be event appropriate. Explain that makeup is a lot like clothes and should be worn accordingly. A lighter more natural look is appropriate for school and a more formal look can be used for a school dance. Also, stress the importance of quality make-up. Dime store or other cheap make-up can contain all sorts of ingredients that can harm her skin. Finally, emphasize the importance of not sharing make-up, especially eye and lip make-up. This is a good way to end up with bad bacteria.
Here are some suggestions for products that are perfect for beginners:
Tinted moisturizers- This is a great product to start introducing foundation. It is lightweight, moisturizing and will help with complexion problems. Be sure it has SPF.
Light pink lip gloss- Tweens are not ready for lipstick and really don't need it. Lip glosses are perfect. Make sure to stick with clear or very light shades.
Peach or skin-toned eyeshadow- Cream eyeshadows are very easy to blend. Make sure to emphasize to her that a little goes a long way.
Brown mascara- Opting for brown gives a much softer look than black. Also, try to avoid waterproof mascara. Make sure to go over application, again, less is more.
Makeup remover wipes- Helpful to remove makeup around/near the eye area without the use of harsh soaps. Teach your preteen the importance of taking care of her skin. Makeup needs to be removed before bed and applied to a clean face in the morning. Practicing good hygiene is key, and a good indicator that she's ready for makeup land.